Imagine this: A guy gets a girl’s phone number through a mutual friend because he’s intrigued. The guy and the girl have a month long phone and webcam “get to know each other” little thing… They finally meet… They hang out, they sleep together, phone calls, texts, webcam, all that good shit.

Facts: He lives in Florida. Her in Cali.

Yes, we’re talking about me here.

Pause. Two months down the road, we’ve been talking almost daily, we’ve been hanging out when we can, and a random chick hits me up on Twitter. Long story short, she knows who I am and that I’ve been talking to her apparent “boyfriend of four years” as she says, although she apparently has a kid from someone else, he had a very public relationship with someone else… RANDOM! He doesn’t deny knowing her and fucking her, but calls her a mistake he made on a night he blacked out and says shit like, “The more she thinks she knows, the closer she thinks we are… She’s fucking psycho…” shit like that. Whatever.

Continue the little phone/webcam ‘thing’ while homeboy tours. “I miss you… Can’t wait to see you…” and even some pretty kinky texts, pictures

and, yes, video!

Follow with shit like, “Your job is really starting to bother me… You don’t have any other ‘friends’ like me, do you?…” etc., etc.  What’s a girl to think? Wow, he really likes me if my job is starting to bother him. But that’s okay. It’s not a lifelong thing and it’s something I’m willing to give up to pursue a relationship so long as I’m assured that it’s a move that’s worth it, right?

“But… You can’t really get upset if I do fuck other girls, right? Because of what you do…”  I’m confused. The thought of me being with someone else bothers you, so I think you like me. Now you’re talking about other chicks, so… You’re really not that into it??? I’m so confused!!!

See him for the first time in over 2 months yesterday. We hang out, we sleep together, I go to his show… Then he’s got some hosting thing to do. “So… I’ll see you tomorrow then?” Huh? You mean I’m not going with you? “You know what would happen if we showed up together!” Dude! It’s not like I’m asking you to hold my hand and make out with me, but I don’t think that us being at that same party amongst a bunch of friends is gonna cause too much ‘drama’ for you… Unless, of course, you’re either (1) afraid of the public’s judgements of being friends with a pornstar, which you told me you didn’t care about, or (2) you just don’t want anyone else to ‘find out’ about me… Like the ‘crazy bitch’ who WAS allowed to attend a hosting gig that you did just 2 weeks ago… What the fuck is that?!

Insert fight. He’s mad at me because I’m mad at him because he said this and did that, then I said this that pissed him off… All that bullshit. Are you kidding me?!?!

My number one question that he just dodges is, “Why feed me the bullshit with the sweet talking, the hanging out, the sex, etc., if you’re not in it for a relationship?” Look, I don’t want a ring on my finger tomorrow. I don’t. All I ask for is some respect, as a FRIEND, that, if we’re gonna ‘hang out’, don’t make me feel like that can only be done in the privacy of a hotel room… And don’t hang out with ‘crazy bitches’ that are gonna disrespect me! Is that so much to ask? Fuck! So, again… “Are you labeling me as just ‘a good time while in Cali’ or is our ‘friendship’ worth the time, effort and feelings that have been going into it to eventually be ‘something’?”

Him: “I hope we can remain friends but that’s all I can give you right now.”

Awesome. But what does that mean to you, asshole?!?! Do you mean that you still want me to spread my legs for you so you can have a good time, but then chicken out in public because God forbid that someone else find out we’re ‘FRIENDS’. Frankly, being ‘friends’ with someone usually involves some level of respect for them, which would include inviting them out with all the other friends regardless of what you think people are going to say.

Fuck that. Anyone that wants to be ‘friends’ with me, on whatever level, needs to show me, pornstar or not, a little bit of respect. I don’t get it…

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Since the big news is officially out and everyone is talking about it, I guess it is now okay for me to actually talk about it…

MY FIRST ANAL SCENE!!!!!!

Wow. Big step for me!!! But a step that I am so proud of.

Shooting my highly sought after first anal scene was something that I contemplated for SO LONG. Not being an experienced anal sex girl even in my personal life, it took so much courage for me to just say ‘Fuck it. Let’s do it!’, but I’m so glad I did. I had only had anal sex ONCE in my life, and that was off camera (obviously), with an ex-boyfriend who, frankly, was a little on the smaller side. Not that that is a bad thing, but there’s a big difference in taking his skinny, 5-inch dick and taking an 8″+ , big, thick dick on camera. (To be fair… I personally like them a little on the smaller side in my personal life! If it’s too big, it hurts! I wanna enjoy sex… Not get ripped apart!)

When I decided that I wanted to finally shoot that first anal scene, three companies came to mind: Brazzers, Jules Jordan and Elegant Angel. Brazzers has done so much with me and for me over the last couple of years and I absolutely love everyone over there in the main office and (most) of their directors, but then I had my doubts about having the internet FLOODED with that first anal scene that would be so ‘special’ to me. I contemplated Jules Jordan because, well, he’s AMAZING! Not only is he a personal friend of mine, but he shoots some of the best stuff out there today and he’s so dedicated to making everything the best it can be. But, when it came down to it, Jules likes to not respond to text messages! (Hahahahah. You know I love ya, kid!) Then there was Elegant Angel. I LOVE these people. I had brought up the idea to their director Mason, who is one of my favorites in this business, and William H. overheard the convo and jumped to it, “Oh, you HAVE TO shoot for Big Wet Asses…” I knew that Elegant Angel would be a great choice, but I honestly didn’t think they’d want me THAT bad. Well, what it came down to was that Elegant offered a little more money than Brazzers… And it would just be bad business (personally) to not take more money. Plus, shooting for Elegant is a shorter day than shooting with Brazzers (no offense to Brazzers, whatsoever). And, of course, I knew that Elegant Angel would PROMOTE, PROMOTE, PROMOTE! Free publicity for me!

Obviously, the movie with Elegant Angel is Big Wet Asses 17, due out at the end of June. My scene was with Michael Stefano and, from what William H. told AVN.com… It’s pretty damn good!

“This is one of the best first anal scenes that I have shot,” said director William H. “Jayden is an incredible girl who has built a very big following over the years. Big Wet Asses has grown into such a massive series for Elegant Angel, and I’m really proud that we were able to keep that going shooting a star of Jayden’s caliber. We’re very honored to shoot her first anal scene in this series.” (From AVN.com)

I was so incredibly happy to read that today. Although I was confident going into the scene, I had only done it one other time and I was a bit nervous about the comfort level. We started the scene with some regular vag positions, then went into the anal sex. Funny, we had cut right before we started the anal portion, but I told William to keep rolling… “I WANT that original penetration caught on camera.” I wanted it to be real. I wanted everything caught on camera. And when people watch it, I want them to see that there are moments of discomfort and there are also moments of intense pleasure because it is 100% REAL. I’m not a pro, and I didn’t want it to appear that way. This is my FIRST anal scene… Stefano was breaking me in… I didn’t want to put it in and go buck wild like I usually do. And I hope all of the communication between us is apparent. There were times I’d ask him to slow down and let me work it so I could get comfortable… There were times I didn’t like the positions and it was really uncomfortable and asked him to move… And there were times I was really enjoying myself and getting off!

I didn’t fake a single sigh, moan, groan or scream in this scene… It’s real… It’s me getting my ass fucked on camera for the very first time… And I hope everyone enjoys it as much as I did.

As for shooting more anal scenes… Well… I am doing one more very soon, but no plans on anything other than for my website as of yet…

And I finally did it!!!!

Those people work fast!!! Just shot the scene this afternoon, and that was up on their blog before I even got home!!! So excited for the release of this one… Hope everyone enjoys it!!!

 

(Written on my flight home yesterday… Haven’t gotten the chance to actually post it until now… Enjoy!)

I know I’m a little behind on my blog updating, and since I’m right smack in the middle of a flight from Washington DC to Los Angeles and BORED as hell, having slept on my first flight, a two hour trip from Miami to DC (I know, weird flight schedule, but I didn’t book it!) so I can’t sleep now and my Ambien stash is in my suitcase that I checked, so why not use the down time to write, right?

So, yes, I’m flying home from Miami having just attended the eXXXotica convention. To be completely honest, this convention had to be the lamest convention I’ve ever attended. I managed to escape the BangBros booth that I was signing at and browse around with my friend/driver/security-guy Eddy, just to see what this convention had to offer and I was so disappointed. There was just a handful of actual PORN vendors that were actually lacking GIRLS, and a whole bunch of other crap… and seriously… CRAP… People promoting their little t-shirt companies, people selling candy in the shape of genitalia, things like that. And good for them for pushing their products, but from the consumer point of view, if I would have paid the $50+ to attend this thing, I’d be let down. Being that it is an adult entertainment convention, you’d expect all kinds of porn companies, porn stars, lots of sex toys, and just porn, porn, porn! But it wasn’t that at all. And, to top it off, not only were these people paying over fifty bucks to get in, but apparently there were girls charing to take pictures, charging for autographs, etc. I even heard a girl say, as someone asked to take a picture with her, “You can take a picture OF me, but I can’t take one with you unless you buy something.” WOW!!! Here I am signing for one of the largest internet networks, getting paid pretty freakin’ well, and handing out shit and taking all kinds of pictures for free! These poor consumers were getting RIPPED OFF by the lame convention itself, then girls were just fucking them harder over getting something as simple as taking a picture! Hard up for money??? Geez…

Aside from that mess, I didn’t have a horrible time in Miami! Frankly, I get a little frustrated working the conventions, but I did my best to keep my spirits up and keep smiling. I will admit that, of all the conventions I’ve worked in my ‘career’, I had a hard time this weekend! I was (still am!) physically and emotionally EXHAUSTED. Traveling, working, and dealing with stupid drama put quite a strain on me this time around. And, to add to the terrible exhaustion, I had to push so hard to smile while having dudes with bad breath, sweating profusely from the Miami heat, put their arms around me to take pictures, leaving wet spots on my shoulders, all the while turning down their “sexual advances” because they think that ALL porn girls are hookers. I know that sounds HORRIBLE, but luckily not all of the attendees are like that. THANK GOD! lol. It’s just hard to put up with when you’re stuck behind a table, signing for 7 straight hours, wanting so desperately to take a nap.

Enough of the convention. I actually flew out to Miami early this time and was able to enjoy a day off and go to the beach this time! I was so excited! My best friend/makeup artist flew in early with me, and we spent all day Thursday at the beach. We ate and shopped on Lincoln Road, then made out way to the shore, having forgot to actually wear bikinis! Oops. Regardless, we sat on the shore in our jeans, drawing in the sand, taking pictures, and just relaxing. On a more personal level, there was actually about an hour where we sat and didn’t say a word to each other, and I was personally just thinking (as I said early… emotional EXHAUSTED over some shit). You know, I date and whatnot, but It’s been a long time (almost 3 years!) since I’ve been in a ‘relationship’, and I was thinking about the current guy I’ve been talking to and the retarded drama that I was (still am) experiencing and whatnot, and I actually was able to clear my head of all of that shit and sort of realize what I want. But, what I realized didn’t matter at the time anyway. I was there to work and I couldn’t mix the two. I like him a lot, but it’s hard to be ‘Jayden Jaymes’ when I’ve got too much of my personal life on my mind, and I was in Miami to be ‘Jayden Jaymes’, so all that was pushed aside. (Hopefully, now that I’m headed home, I can finally ‘resolve’ everything.)

Speaking of ‘being Jayden Jaymes’, on Saturday night I decided to toss out my rule of not going out while working and hit up a local strip club with some of my local friends. TOOTSIES, baby!!!! I LOVE that place. For those of you that have no idea what I’m talking about, this place used to be a Costco and was renovated into a strip club… It’s HUGE! I absolutely love the setup of that place and it’s always so busy when I go in there. Plus, they always have over 100 girls working at a time! And, being that it’s Miami, there’s a plethora of ASS, and I’m an ass girl! I love a big, round, firm ass and thick, tone legs… GORGEOUS! I had such a great time!!!! 

To top if off the strip club fun, they had a feature dancer there (‘Prinzzess’???) and someone (well, a few people!) had spotted me there and they ended up asking if they could pull me on stage and introduce me. I agreed, but I told them I wasn’t getting naked! I believe they worked it out with the girl first, but I felt kind of bad. The DJ was talking about her and her work and what not, but had said something about her only doing lesbian porn or something and, from the way I remember it, he said something like, “We have lesbian porn star Prinzzess in the house… But we have SUPER porn star Jayden Jaymes in the house! Let’s get HER up on that stage!” I felt bad!!!! He kind of down-played her during her own show!!!!! But, I walked on stage, said hello, and got to participate in her show a little… By removing her panties using nothing but my teeth! Hahaha! (Oh yeah, I did it.) That was it, though. I left the stage after that. I didn’t wanna steal her thunder. However, afterwards, the club manager pulled me aside to inquire about having me there for a week to feature, so I gave him my contact information… and hopefully I’ll be returning to Miami SOON to put on my own show! Yay!!!

Overall, the Maimi trip this time around was nothing short of fabulous. My BFFs Phoenix Marie and Lynda were with me the whole time and it kept my mind of everything else and allowed me to let loose and enjoy myself. However, I am looking forward to landing and returning home to cuddle with my dog and sleep in my own bed!

Oh… and to keep y’all on your toes… I’m shooting something nothing short of EPIC later this week.. And I’m so excited!!!! I can’t give too much detail… But you know I will when I can!

xoxo

I know I’m a little behind with the new update, and I plan on working on that later, but until then, here’s an interview I did a couple days ago with Whack Magazine while on set for Zero Tolerance (It was EARLY… There’s a complete lack of enthusiasm and a lot of sarcasm):

WHACK! Can you give us your basic background information? Name, age, hometown, years in the business so far?

JAYDEN JAYMES Well, my name is Jayden Jaymes. That’s Jaymes with a “Y” because I’m not Britney Spears’ fucking kid. I actually had the name before that. I remember getting emails saying, “Oh my god, Britney Spears just named her kid after you.” I’m twenty four. I’ve been in the business for three and a half years; I started November of ‘06. Hometown? Oh. I don’t wanna say haha. Let’s just say I was born and raised in Southern California.

W! How did you get your start in the industry?

JJ I fucking hate that question. Well, I was dancing to put myself through college and it was just something that I had thought about doing because I thought it was, like, glamorous. Little did I know. And I don’t know, I had just mentioned it to a few people and this girl that I danced with knew a director and I met that director and he introduced me to an agent and the rest is history!

W! What were you doing before porn?

JJ I danced before porn while I went to college for business. I have a bachelor’s degree in business and before that I was a licensed insurance sales person. (sarcastically) I’m edu-ma-cated!

W! What’s something—either career minded or something you’re just passionate about—that you’d like to do after you decide to leave the adult industry?

JJ Anything I’d be interested in? I love advertising. I love entertainment. I know a lot of people in the industry. I don’t know. I couldn’t name any specifics. I love entertainment but I also love, love, love, to work with autistic children. That is one of my passions. I have such a fascination for the disease. It just, oh god, it just opens my heart. I’d love to do it.

W! So, what are you shooting today? What type of scene? For who? With who?

JJ I’m shooting with James Deen.

W! What is your individual movie count up to now? Movies and scenes, alike.

JJ Um, I’ve got about three hundred internet scenes. I think over a hundred and fifty movie titles

W! So, an idea has been floating around WHACK! Magazine about setting up The XXX Games. If you didn’t know, the regular X Games are competitions that focus on extreme sports. The WHACK! spin on it, The XXX Games, would involve you, porn stars, competing against each other to see which of you are the best at your “sport”. A few examples of the different “events” would be who can deep-throat the best, who can run the fastest in stripper heels, and maybe who is the ultimate “Super Slut” (the Super Slut would be the best of the best in several different “skills”). So, if you competed in The XXX Games, which skill do you think you’d most likely win the gold for?

JJ What am I good at? I can’t deep throat for shit. I have bad gag reflexes. Like every now and then, I can do it but then oh my god I actually almost puked yesterday. I had to deep throat on set. Um, I think I give a really good blow job. I have had men in my personal life tell me that I should write a book so that way they can give it to their wives. That’s so bad. I like unavailable men, okay?! 
**W!: I didn’t even catch that haha! 
**JJ: Oh, duh! They’re like, “Can you write a book so I can give it to my WIFE so she learns how to suck dick?”

W! If you could turn any mainstream movie into a parody and be a character in it, what movie would it be and who would you play?

JJ Um, god I hate porn. Has A Clockwork Orange been done already? That’d be pretty fuckin’ cool. My friend had mentioned it. And ever since he mentioned it, I keep hearing this freaking novel come up and it’s been driving me crazy and I just got the book and I’m like “Ahh okay, this is awesome.” So far I’m loving it. After I read the book, I’ll watch the movie.

W! What’s something you haven’t done in porn yet that you’d like to try or are open to doing?

JJ I’ve never done an anal scene. In three and a half years, I haven’t done an anal scene (laughs to herself). I’m kinda interested in doing that. I’m scared. Not about pain, but I don’t wanna poop on someone. Because, you know, c’mon? That shit happens. That’s your butthole. That’s like my biggest fear. But I think it’d be kinda fun to do.
**W! Have you…oh, nevermind. I won’t ask. 
**JJ No, what? Ask it! 
** W! I was gonna as if you’ve done it in your personal life? 
** JJ I have done it in my personal life. But porn sex is a lot different than real life sex. Opening up and sizes of penises. I mean there are so many different aspects of it. And getting fucked in the ass in my personal life wouldn’t be nearly as hard as I would get it on camera.

W! How old were you when you first had sex with a boy? And with a girl?

JJ I really hope you don’t cut me off when you write out this interview but I was fourteen the first time I had sex with a guy, and I didn’t have sex again until I was seventeen. We have to make that clear. I was not a whore at fourteen years old. The first time I had sex with a girl, I was eighteen. She was like twenty eight and it was with her and her boyfriend. Oh god, it was great. We went to Dave & Busters and had a few drinks and I came back and I was, like, sleeping on her couch. And she comes out naked, right? And she’s all fucked up. And she says, “Come in the bedroom.” And I was like, “Okay!” Like, I had made out with girls and stuff. But we all just fucked; it was amazing.

W! What’s one thing you like about boy/girl scenes more than girl/girl scenes? Vice versa?

JJ I like boy/girl scenes over girl/girl because boys man up and take charge. I like to be dominated in my scenes. Not completely dominated, but I need somebody to, like, man handle me. And girls don’t usually do that. A lot of girls are really submissive. I think it’s because they don’t really like girls and they’re just doing it for a paycheck—which fucking sucks. And I like girl/girl over boy/girl because it saves my vagina. I have, like, I swear to you, I don’t have a very deep vagina. And a lot of penises in porn are really long and so they attack my cervix. And it’s not amazing. But yeah, it saves my vagina. And I like girl/girl over boy/girl because I send pictures to my ‘friend’ and he gets all excited. And then we have hot sex.

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W! Who is your “Ultimate Porn Star”? Someone you either look up to or would be star struck by?

JJ (Half Jokingly) I don’t ever get star struck. Porn stars are nobodies. I don’t give a shit about porn. I hate porn. And I hate porn stars. It’s work, you know? My job is work and that’s it and I go home and get on with my life. I don’t even see mainstream actors as superstars. They’re just people doing a job and trying to make a living.

W! Is there anyone in the business that you haven’t worked with yet, but want to?

JJ (As Kagney Lynn Karter is sitting 10 feet away) Yeah, there’s this hot bitch named Kagney. I think she’s great. I would love to have sex with her. With a black man involved. And I know she secretly would love that too.
** KLK Ahh! Don’t tell my secret! 
** JJ I have secrets too! 
** KLK It’s all about the jungle fever. 
** JJ Mmm. Jungle fever!

W! If you could have your way with any mainstream celebrity for one night, who would it be?

JJ The one I’ve already got…

W! Do you have any upcoming promotions, signings, appearances, feature dancing gigs, or new projects? Anything you’d like to plug?

JJ No. Haha, fuck my life. Everyone knows I don’t care. Um, let’s plug my website. Yeah, bitch! JaydenJaymesXXX.com…and it’s Jaymes with a motherfuckin’ “Y”!